“Thanksgiving Thoughts”

By Nancy Pollard, LCSW, LLC
Nancy Pollard

Yes, it’s that time of year again…already!  Hard to believe, isn’t it?

I want begin by telling you how thankful I am to have each one of you in my life.  Some of you have confided in me and trusted me with your deepest, darkest secrets.  Some of you have laughed with me until I cried.  Some of you, our paths have crossed briefly.

But all of you have enriched my life and taught me what I have needed to learn and continue to pass on and share.  You have blessed me with knowing you and your world, if even a tiny bit.  If you know me, you know I am passionate about my work and you have given me the gift of giving to you, however large or small.

And while I am very grateful for you, what about you?  Are you grateful for YOU?

Have you ever considered giving thanks for who you are?  Giving thanks for your unique talents, whatever they may be?

Most of us know our faults and tend to dwell on them at times.  The Inner Critic seems to be ever present.  But, what about the Inner Cheerleader, the inner best friend, the inner lover of YOU?  Where does he lie, buried deeply or forgotten?  Perhaps it is time for you to appreciate you.

I am not suggesting that you brag or boast about yourself and how great you think you are.  This is fodder for narcissists, the “Me-Me-Me” people of the world.  I am talking about the givers; the quietly unspoken, big-hearted people who are always there for the other guy.  Sad but true, rarely are givers there for themselves.

What if you took a turn?  What if you did for yourself what you always do for others?

Consider this:

  • Open your heart to yourself
  • Be kind to you
  • Be generous with acceptance of you – exactly as you are
  • Give compliments to yourself
  • Acknowledge what you did today that worked, that was ‘right’
  • Give yourself what you give to others: kindness, compassion, ‘hall passes’ on poor behavior

Spend a moment each day, praising yourself.

  • “Wow, I have a huge heart”
  • “I have the patience of a saint”
  • “I have really pretty eyes”
  • “I am proud of my body”
  • “I keep myself fit”
  • “I am fun to be around”
  • “My experience has paid off”
  • “I am generous with my time”
  • “I help those in need”
  • “I have wisdom in the area of…”
  • “I…”
  • “I…”
  • “I…”

(Fill in the blanks.)

Love yourself; protect and keep yourself safe, physically and emotionally. 
Discover who you are and what you want. 
What makes your heart sing?
What makes you smile?
What makes your heart open up?
What empowers you and makes you strong?

Get to know yourself deeply and intimately.  Be your best friend and your lover for life.
Be your own partner in crime. 
See your goodness.
Recognize your talents and nurture them.

Lastly, slow down.  Stop running from yourself.  Check in with YOU…even when you are around others.

I promise, it’s okay to feel good about who you are.  It’s okay to love yourself.  Bathe yourself in quiet admiration, see how it feels and what it produces.  You may be surprised.  Give thanks this Thanksgiving season for you and all that you do and all that you are.  It’s okay.

Just a little Mountain Therapy

Copyright © 2016 Nancy Pollard



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